I.........................have not posted in a while.
I kinda feel like since my blog isn't public anymore, I don't have the chance of random people coming to it from the link on my Facebook or something and being like - Wow! Steph is pretty cool! - which I guess was my whole purpose behind my blog? But whatever! I had some thoughts so I want to share them with you! (Mom, Katie, Liz and Lisa).
Mmmkay here we go!
Weight loss is weird. Now that I’ve lost, and continue to lose, a lot of weight, (70 lbs!), I find myself wanting to be more fashionable, feminine, and confident. But why does it take weight loss for that to kick in? Everyone should be confident no matter what their size. But I found myself having confidence up to a certain point before the world just said “Mmnop. That’s far enough.” No attention from guys, extremely limited clothing options, and just bombardment of the media’s opinion of beauty. Which I felt quite far from. More so than just the average woman, (which, is there really an average woman? Probably not). The world standard of acceptable beauty is stupid. Really stupid. (Sorry if this sounds familiar).
But I find myself being just as stupid as the world too! The beautiful, thin girls sometimes seem to be more attractive...just...socially! I find myself wanting to be around them more because they are thin and beautiful, so they seem to have their lives in order! (?) But is that because of my personal perception? Or because they actually DO have extra confidence from the world telling them that they’re beautiful, so then they develop more social skills? And, as a result, are more attractive to be around? I guess it just snowballs on either side of it. Outwardly beautiful girls may receive more attention and praise, so they are more confident and social and easy to be around. Other girls may not receive as much attention and are forced to receive that praise from within themselves. Which, to a point, is a great thing! It keeps you from relying solely on other people’s praise for your own confidence (Facebook selfies anyone?) But at the same time, it’s extremely difficult to be confident by yourself. Especially when you can’t shop in the popular stores because you don’t fit into a size 14 jeans. So you are limited with clothes that actually fit and are fashionable. And, often, have to be purchased online and don’t end up fitting anyway. So you don’t feel as fashionable in your mom jeans you bought from Amazon.
Also, today on Reddit, there seemed to be a theme of posts that basically said, “Maybe fat women should focus more on losing weight and being healthy, than trying to convince people that they are beautiful.” To which I say - how do you expect me to feel good about myself enough to address the root of my eating problems and to go to the gym, if I’m told that I don’t deserve to be beautiful because of my weight? Everyone deals with their problems differently - some are just more outwardly apparent than others so why don’t you just accept that you don’t know everything and stop judging?
Mmkay. I’m done with my soap box speech. Just some thoughts I had in my head and wanted to express. Mmmthoughts?
Also here's a guy yelling at a spider. Also from Reddit, lol.
Right on.
3 comments:
I don't think I've ever actually met anyone who truly has their life in order. Unless we're talking about that spider. That spider knows what it's doing.
Tell reddit to f*** off. That is called "fat-shaming" and it pisses me off. Being thin is a form of privilege in our society, and people use that privilege/power to reinforce their own status by shaming others into believing they're worth less. Screw those people. It's not ok to shame people because of their body, EVER. Every body is beautiful, and its own person's business. There are healthy, beautiful women who weigh over 300 pounds, and there are unhealthy, sick women who weigh 120 pounds. The "ideal" body type is a myth, and it's perpetuated by the same people who benefit every day from thin privilege.
http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/10/lets-talk-about-thin-privilege/
http://everydayfeminism.com/2012/11/20-examples-of-thin-privilege/
I WANT TO HULKSMASH ALL THE THINGS, REDDIT!!!!!!!
Also, it's bloody ironic that people are using a picture of John Goodman (whose BMI is clearly not in the "normal" range) to fat-shame. I mean, sexist double-standard, anyone?!
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